Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[NikB]

(((Trixi)))

I agree with LL, the ups and downs are normal... but I hope you can look at it as part of LETTING GO instead of part of holding on to something that isn't there.

Sara I love this:

Please put a sign on your mirror. "Do not fall in love with selfish a@@holes".

Maybe right below it you can put a couple of other signs:

"Love myself."
"Respect myself."
"Require respect from others."

I think I mentioned this to you before but thought it might be timely to bring it up again. You seem to have a lot of characteristics of ACOA (Adult children of Alcoholics). Have you ever thought about trying out AlAnon? Just to see if it's a good "fit" for you? I know it's been a wonderful help for some people here.

About the IC thing... I honestly think this was a really lame passive-aggressive way to (once again) brush off any responsibility for himself, and also make you feel guilty. Maybe he has recognized that he needs it, but really... he suddenly finally realizes this when "sigh poor me" he can't drive to the place? If he sincerely wanted to go, he would find a way. Heck he didn't even ASK YOU to take him there. He certainly knows by now that you're willing to drive him around.

Work on getting yourself strong before that long drive on Wednesday! Did you read all my ideas on that? I hope some of them help.

(((Trixi)))

Back away from the fire, Trixi. It's going to keep burning you.