Looking backward but only to move forward SEVEN

[sage]

Egads...two weeks since I posted? Hiya AMD and PS

I'm back with goals...thought them up this AM...

I've always been a big fan of having 3 goals...1 for me, 1 for the "M" in general, and 1 to specifically address something that's bugging h...

1. (Me) Get back in shape and lose the 15 lbs that have been dogging me for years. I really, really need to do this to a) feel better about myself and b) get up the nerve to start initiating w/h again (that's a whole other post). I signed up for WW online and today is day 1, so far so good. And, I went to the gym this AM and started my "couch potato to 5K" running program again. I'm jazzed up about this.

2. (Marriage in general) This may not seem particularly meaningful to most but I need to stop talking so much. My talking right now is doing a couple of negative things: a) Preventing me from listening (and showing attention to h) b) Keeping h from having the room to talk and c) seriously impacting h's relationship with Charlotte. She is SO attached to me that she goes to me for everything...I need to give them more space to relate and one thing that would definitely help is if I didn't feel the need to talk ALL THE TIME.

There's plenty of other goals to be addressed M-wise but this is a good start.

3. (Addressing an issue of h's). Gotta start cleaning/decluttering the house. I realized this AM that the reason why h isn't helping out anymore is that he's checked out because he doesn't think I'm taking his issues with the clutter around the house seriously. IOW, he's thinking "well, I've complained about it and she's not fixing it so I'm out of the game." How did I forget this about my husband? I know if I make a concerted effort to start cleaning/decluttering that he will evenutally get engaged. I just need to take the first step.

So, in summary:
1. Diet/exercise to lose weight/get fit
2. STOP talking
3. START cleaning

HNY to you all -- how is everyone?

Sage