Then I guess I will give you a little of what I can muster. I should be napping ..but that can hold for a sec.
Originally Posted By: sandy
Now, I know that in the small picture this can be a good thing, but this is literally destroying the man I knew or know.
Ahhh, just like the temple in the most Holy city of all, he can and will be fixed.
Originally Posted By: sandy
He has always held himself above most men (that might be his downfalling right now)because of his ethics and values. Now he feels he can no longer do that or be that because of this one mistake he made.
There seems to be a parallel of sorts here that I seem to be able to relate to. Must be the pilot thing again ..huh? My simple advice is to be as reassuring and as ego boosting as you possibly can for him (as you probably are). He needs that helpful boost from you. Don't pull away from him at all, even if it seems counter-intuitive. The only reason he would be attempting to place distance between himself and you (as it seems he might be) is because he doesn't want what he thinks is his unworthy, tainted self to be responsible for making you "dirty" by association. THis way of thinking has a remote superficial validity to it and absolutely nothing more. In other words it is bunk and you need to push passed it, IMO, and show him the unconditional love you have for him.
That's all. Keep it simple.
And the part about him not making an association with the time of year of the A ......BS! It is on his mind and it is further fueling his slide.
And I will pray that he will perhaps reconsider seeing a counselor ..even if for just a single visit. The unloading of the mind and it's destructive elements is never a bad thing. Us guys and especially pilots are stubborn asses but maybe he will deviate and take a detour from the stubborness before rejoining the homeostatic course.
