Back at work today after being off so long and blah !!!
Had a nice NYE, went out with my best mate, his GF and another friend and met up with a load of other friends. The four of us got a taxi back local about 11.30 and there was tension in the pub we were in and I think a fight was going to break out....Not one for spending 1st days of new years in hospitals or police stations (or any day for that matter). Was rather drunk but was a real laugh. My BF works all the time so isn't out often and when he is it's like we still at school again.
Managed to only have 2 ciggies all day yesterday, hopefully none today but we will see. Going out with MOT35 Sat night for a quiet drink (found out she is actually 34 still but said she was a year older than me and don't want to confuse issues by changing). Also been asked to go out with STBXBFF35 on Monday but think I will swerve that as really trying to not drink to much.
poker night tonight round friends so keeping busy. Been running twice this week and though a real struggle after a break, going to get right back into it.
Interactions with STBX seem to be just plain weird....She moans and nags me now more than she did, she is rude, never says goodbye and couldn't even say happy new year to me when I wished her one. Ah well, so be it.....guess it's what we call Batchitt Crazy !!!
I think I will post some new years resolutions on here a bit later, certainly need to write them down
HNY Arthur! I understand where you are coming from on letting go here and moving forward. Been thinking of doing the same. It helped get me where I am and now I am ready to chart a new course. Just can't believe that D actually happened! I hope someday I bump into a friendly chap with an English accent and find out it is you! Then we can get thorughly drunk and laugh about how we survived our misfortunes and raised world leaders and rock stars! Best of luck sir!
LE
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
Hi LE - Nice to hear from you bruv... are you in the other universe ? I'll come catch up on you buddy shortly.
Drunk or sober all I do is laugh these days...it's brilliant. I'm so happy with where i'm at, I feel I've been given a second chance in life and that's at the moment when things aren't all that great really, but I look to the positives.
Went out with MOT35 sat night to a quiet pub (she drove) and turns out her ex just moved back in un announced so she really upset, but put it to one side for the evening. Anyway, I'd had a few and on the way home we were talking and I said I'm not sure I can do this anymore, this sneaking around, not knowing how long til you are actually able to see me properly etce etc. She got pretty upset and I think was close to tears. It was all fine, I didn't really want to do it as we get on, but I don't want to (and I explained this to her) waste a months or longer as it is and then we fall out anyway. Waste of both our time. Then I asked to get dropped into town as wanted to go and get smashed, now that didn't go down to well either TBH, but I text a few times when out. Really not sure what to do, it's so confusing. I like this girl and she is really into me, which, TBH, I find a bit strange. We are so different, she is loaded, she could have a choice of a lot of guys I'm sure, but she wants me. I'm just some little poor boy, living at home, not sure when I'm going to get out etc. Funnily, we chatted some yesterday and met up for a little bit and she has made enquiries with a friend for properties for me....lol...think she wants me to get a place so we have somewhere to meet up....
oh, she is also going to Ireland on business next month and has invited me. I asked what I needed to do, get flights etc and she said don't worry, she will get the company to pay...WTF...cheers then
Also chatted to STBXBF35 online a bit last night. Not sure where that one is going if anywhere so going to leave it. If she splits up with her fella, will see where I'm at by then but things are complicated enough as it is.
OK..I can have a field day with this..you'l have to explain a few things to me here brother..I'm lost..
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Went out with MOT35 sat night to a quiet pub (she drove) and turns out her ex just moved back in un announced so she really upset, but put it to one side for the evening
so EX what?? Ex husband moved back in?? ex BF?? you're not playing OM are you??
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Anyway, I'd had a few and on the way home we were talking and I said I'm not sure I can do this anymore, this sneaking around, not knowing how long til you are actually able to see me properly etce etc. She got pretty upset and I think was close to tears. It was all fine, I didn't really want to do it as we get on, but I don't want to (and I explained this to her) waste a months or longer as it is and then we fall out anyway. Waste of both our time.
this sounds OM'ish
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I like this girl and she is really into me, which, TBH, I find a bit strange. We are so different, she is loaded, she could have a choice of a lot of guys I'm sure, but she wants me. I'm just some little poor boy, living at home, not sure when I'm going to get out etc. Funnily, we chatted some yesterday and met up for a little bit and she has made enquiries with a friend for properties for me....lol...think she wants me to get a place so we have somewhere to meet up....
oh, she is also going to Ireland on business next month and has invited me. I asked what I needed to do, get flights etc and she said don't worry, she will get the company to pay...WTF...cheers then
Ex Husband. They have been seperated bout 6 months and he out the house for 3 months. She is done, but yeah, I guess i'm sort of other man. Naughty yes, but i've encouraged her to save her M if she can, she really doesn't want to. She is done, but due to her financial situation, she has to be very careful else he could take her for a lot of money. so things are moving slow.
Rescue me ? from what ? She is just into me Mikey...I don't get it either, but we get on, we have a laugh so i'm enjoying it for what it is.
FWIW - I have since all this started met other people in unhappy M or R and also so many sperated people it's unbelieveable. Frightening really but seems so many people quit. The most common aspect also seems to be at least 1 child around 2, often the second child, whe it all starts to come to a head....Definately something that having kids does to a R if you ask me.
Rescue me ? from what ? She is just into me Mikey...I don't get it either, but we get on, we have a laugh so i'm enjoying it for what it is.
well you described yourself as a poor little boy, living at home..maybe she sees that in you and feels the need to bring in her big money to rescue you??
I'm not judging brother..I understand all this believe me I do..
I say go be happy...I say have a good time..I also say "don't shoplift the pootie from a single mom"
Aha I get you Mikey, but don't think that at all. I just think she really likes me. I mean, I was so hammered the first time we met, I completely blanked and although I know she isn't overly impressed, she has just sort of been ok with it.
I don't see it as being an OM as such, maybe I'm being a bit out of line there, I don't know. My attitude to things has changed a great deal and I don't think it's anyone else's fault but the person who is 'cheating' if you call it that. Also, many times, the WAS is long gone and has been for a long time and D can take sooooooooo long, so how long do they wait to move on ? Is someone my W is seeing now an OM ? (as were not D yet).
I know you will probably all just think I'm justifying what I'm doing, but if she says their done and have been for a long time, I believe her. She has opened up to me and I do understand why things can move faster re her getting a D, she has to be careful. I'm taking things slowly, our meeting are generally a cuppa or a little drive, or a couple of drinks, nothing silly so it's sort of doing the dating thing which is nice. But if it's meant to be, it will happen, if not, it wont.
