SC, (((((hugs))))) to you. I thought about one other piece of this that helps to think about. The OM or OW is most often not as attractive or intelligent as the LBS. This is brought out in the books on infidelity that I've read. Most time when the WAS wakes up they realize that what they gave up and/or destroyed was more important in their lives.
In my case the OM has a failing business, pot belly, smokes cigars, and his idea of dressing up is a clean tee shirt. I almost want her to spend some time with that...just for revenge.
