Take care of you, my friend. Perhaps a list is not what you need. Perhaps doing ONE thing that is good for Frank is just what you need. Everyone has to 'pick their poison.' Pick yours. I am confident that 'your poison' is at the bottom of your list, but I am even more confident that by doing so, you will see the world differently, including Frank. Nurture yourself in a healthy way.
Good bye for now, buddy. I am with you.
Much love to you and yours, Tom
Last edited by still hopeful; 01/05/0910:25 AM.
Letting Go Tom; JUST DO IT! previously hopeful_husband
my A: Fall 05 W found out: Feb 06; separated immediately W pursued D, final 7/11/07