ROOT, what an excellent post. I will re-read that many times I think.
Mel, I am going to be honest with you. Please forgive me. I am a former soldier and have experienced being deployed. If my wife had been cheating on me while I was in harms way, far from my family...I can't tell you how devastated I would be. I am no longer a soldier and I only have proof of a EA my wife had and then she was the WAS. But now she seems to be trying to come back around and I am not sure that is possible. As ROOT's post so well stated, my feelings of love have been removed by the hurt and betrayal. I can only tell you that I don't know if I can ever take my wife back again because the trust is gone but she would have to do a lot of work to even get me to think about trusting her.
God is in control and he knows your heart. I am not about playing mind games, I personally think you are doing much better by telling him what you think and feel.
