Always, as usual, you say just the right thing.

So glad your time at temple was good.

I was especially moved by your list---'Kidney' friends and getting out of the 'drama' were very important for me (as you know).

I feel that this is a place of sharing...whether your marriage makes it or not. There is a reason why we are all here...and believe it or not...it will not last forever unless you want it to.

I think the newer people on the board need to know that the sun will rise tomorrow and the storm does not last forever. Along the way you hope to learn about yourself for YOU. I know I have. Your words, Fanny's words, Lissett's words and countless others have helped me to move on.

I hope that everyone sees this thread for what it is...and not make it what it is not. There will be some whose marriages will be restored, and I tip my hat to you all...I wish you the best. My marriage was not restored and I am not sure that it ever should have been. I think my situation was such that it could never have been repaired because so much damage was done and he was a narcissist, not even an MLCer really....just a man behaving badly because that was what drove him and got him what HE wanted.

So, now that I have made that realization, I am free to move on with the rest of my life...and I am glad for that.

Once again, thank you for your invaluable insight...I could have never made it this far without it...or my kidney friends!

Love you!
Valentine


Aug '06: H moved out
July '08: H had a kid with the OW
May 12 '09: emancipation day

"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller