Cinders, I understand how you feel...my parents don't think I should start dating...
Glad you had some time off for yourself.
I know how hard it is to move on. I don't know if your H has been suffering from depression. Only he knows that. You must now think of yourself and not allow yourself to sink into anything too deep. The thing is, you are moving forward...and you are consciously letting go. That is a hard thing. You are letting go of all your dreams of the future that you had with your H.
But, you know what, sweets? There are so many other things in your future...things you could not imagine! yes, even LOVE.
As for your dad...hmmmm...well I agree with Snodderly that all this time may have left him with time to think, about your mom, your H, etc...just take it with a grain of salt. I think your parents are also letting him go in their own ways...
I hope the new year brings you all you desire....
Love, Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
Cinders, I have to agree that my H is a complete Narcissist. I see that in him much more than the MLC to be honest.
And, I also agree that another crisis does NOT make them 'wake up"...in truth I do not know if they ever will...knowledge is power, dear....and the more you learn about it...the more you know how a lot of this is not about YOU. And you also have to ask yourself: what if he never comes 'back'? What if his alter ego never reverts? Are you willing to be with the man he is TODAY?
Just a thought....
Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
D9 told me that they nearly crashed the car because H was busy tickling ow whilst driving, and that they were teasing each other all the time..
There is picture on Facebook of H, OW, her D19, and D19's BF...howling Happy Birthday to their dog. The dog has a birthday hat on and apparently they are having a BD party for the dog. I know it is kind of funny...for the 19 year olds...but H and OW are 46 years old...just seems ridiculous to me. Like you said I am all about having fun...but.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Sometimes I feel that H is just living in a modern day sit com !
You know, where H finds himself the yournger ow, the kids love her, they all have a blast, everyone forgets the underlying morals, but we get taught a new and exciting lesson about newly assembled families every week ! And everyone just sits back in the comfort of their own home and laughs at what is supposed to be funny, but has so much other underlying issues ...YUK !
What happened to the Cosby's !???!!!
Now that was a happy, well functioning family and great entertainment !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Hi Cinders, Thanks for dropping by my thread. I am happy for you that your kids are back. You always have such a good time with them. Have a good week and take care.
I have thought the same..IT may be legal to have an A and then introduce this new R to kids but where is the morals No one talks about it people see the mlcer, they probably look down on him -everyone is quiet nothing can be done
we are lucky b/c we change..so H leaves to find the greener grass but it is really us who find it thru the pain peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
