thanks all,

and an2m, there is no more sex between H and I. last time he asked I said..."not until I am able to be in your heart, not just in your bed"

M41
H42
D17
Adopted N14
M22 T24
"Bomb" 4/07
Sep 8/07
Admitted OW 11/07(only to me)
OW back 12/4/07
PA on off thru 7/08
says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08
D final 7/09
Moving on and up!!