How does he respond when you ask about his life? Will he engage in conversation with you?
Alternatively, does he share about his life in response to you sharing about yours?
Hey native, We don't talk about real personal issues. If I ask about his job, friend Bob, or family our conversations are fine and he gives info. But these are very "safe" topics. He on the other hand doesn't ask anything about my life ... not job ... not family ... nothing. That is one sign, I look for on the road to friendship. Haven't gotten there yet. (Yeah, so why did I initiate a hug & kiss??).
I also have apologized a few months back (but only accepting half the blame). He has not - not for anything. (Like you I would probably fall over if he did - lol). Compliments - on our last meeting, I missed some opportunities to compliment. And when he complimented me, I didn't do a good job of acknowledging them. In the past, post bomb, when I praised & complimented him - little changed. I think he has such a wall up - that I cannot break through.
Maybe I did more damage this last time .. don't know. Cuz, I showed him my new tv, my new snow thrower, my new, used computer. This seperation for me has meant more money in my pocket - while for him - it has meant less money & more debt.
I look at my cheese tunnels & I've probably been going down the same ones. More and more - I'm thinking the D tunnel, is the one.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
