Standing on the Edge

[MsMelancoly]

Hey native, So it seems you are quite the optimist - like myself (btw I'm being sarcastic).

In any case, whatever the reason your W was in a good mood. Maybe it will continue. She probably is in reaction mode & not action mode and not just w/you, but w/your D was well.

The other day I was re-reading your sitch & it made me think about being our spouses friend. Tis a fine line that we all struggle with (I'm definately at fault w/this line). When your W bought a new car, you acted like her friend (but went a step further w/ a kiss); W went shopping w/a male friend, you didn't act like a friend; you called W on xmas morning, you acted like her friend; didn't help her carry gifts or make coffee, you didn't act like a friend; helped with the bike issue, you acted like a friend (& a caring father to your D); drove your W to get meds, acted like a friend.

I'm guessing some of the "not helping" is a 180 for you since stated you over helped before. I supposed it's also a fine line from acting like a spouse to acting like a parent to your spouse (I'm guilty of that).

I'm not saying that your actions were right or wrong. Just something I noticed.