I can relate to what you are saying. My ex was in the peak of his MLC when my mother started declining with cancer. He had always been her rock during this time and then poof - he was gone.
She missed him and loved him even more than some of her own sons.
It was painful to watch.
On her death bed she talked about him. He does not know this of course.
My father also missed him during this time because he was a great support.
My father also has some deep resentment for what he put my mother through at the end.
I think our parents battle also between the "good" and "bad" H's.
It is harder for them to forget what wonderful people they were.
They also did not experience the first hand bs that we did.
My father does not want me to date or see anyone else.
He does not want to experience that loss again.
He wants to be my hero now.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
