First of all, THANK YOU for your thoughts on this.
It's funny you mention touch, because although it is NOT anywhere near the top of my wife's Love Languages (she actually scored out about equal for all of the others -- Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Gift Giving and Acts of Service -- and very low on Physical Touch), a hug DOES seem to "bring her back," so to speak.
In fact, it's what caused the breakthrough yesterday morning! After a night of hating my guts, telling me to go stay with someone else, ignoring me all morning and slamming doors, etc., I just sucked it up, said a quick "Holy Spirit, help me!" prayer, and walked into the bedroom and told her I wanted to talk to her. And when the things got venemous, instead of responding, something told me to JUST HUG HER.
And so I did.
She sobbed and sobbed and sobbed and sobbed. And then started yelling at me again, saying I was "phony" and "how could you love me, if you want to divorce me?!" and everything else, but rather than try to REASON with her, I just kept HUGGING her.
I have also asked her before, when she gets in one of her moods, how I can help, and she has always said "Sometimes I just need a hug."
Man, for a non-"touch" person, she sure gets despondent when you don't touch her!!!
