I just see similiarites(sp) between myself and your w. Our issues aren't just physcial tho, but I do find myself change in certain circumstances. What helps in our situation is physcial touch. When my H sees me go to that place, he will touch me - either hug me, or touch my arm, rub my back, any one of those things and more. It doesn't solve the problem of what makes me "change" but it does bring me back to the present and reassures me that we are a team, not opposing forces.

ETA - physcial touch is what works with me - what do you think will work with your w? You may have to try several things.

Last edited by ediemarie; 01/04/09 04:52 PM.
Me: 34
H: 39
M: 7 yrs
H A 12/05-8/07

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