It's amazing; neither one of us felt LOVED, and yet neither one of us have ever stopped loving the other.
"How can you say you LOVE me, if you won't touch me??!" would be my cry.
"How can you say you LOVE me, if you want to GET RID OF me??!" would be hers.
We've each been screaming past each other.
We just need to learn to recognize -- and then work thru -- this "thing" that we have. We have talked about that it SHOULDN'T be that hard, and yet it's always crippled us, and even ultimately brought our marriage to its knees.