Copies from H4U's thread, just to give everyone a little background on yesterday. I still have yet to post the HORRIFIC fight we had Friday night and Saturday morning, which I will try to do sometime today. It's what led to everything:
One of the things my wife told me during our hours-long talk yesterday morning: "Do you know what I'd like us to do?"
"What?" I asked.
"Find something that we enjoy doing together -- a shared interest."
"Like when we used to work out together?" I said.
"Well, yeah, except I see enough of that place since I work there. It can be anything; I just want us to find something we can do together, and talk about together. You and the boys have your baseball and your football and your golf, and that's GREAT -- I envy that. It's been tough on me since the girls moved out (D21 and D19), and you and I just go our separate ways. I'd like us to have at least one thing we do together."
The conversation then turned also to finding some sense of PURPOSE in our lives, and then I suggested combining the two.
"This may sound stupid, but you know what I've been thinking of doing?" I asked.
"What?"
"Working at an animal shelter or something." (we both like to watch "Animal Cops" and our whole family are real animal lovers). "I'd like to volunteer a couple of hours every-other weekend or something."
"I was thinking the same thing!" she said.
"Maybe that's something we could do together, and then we could talk about what we saw that day, etc." I said.
I'm going to look into it. A woman I work with is very involved with a local rescue organization, and I'm sure she'd be a good place to start.
Yesterday we went to the mall and did some Christmas exchanges. On our way out, I asked her if she wanted to go for a Starbucks, which she almost never turns down. Instead, she said "Do you know what I could REALLY go for? A presidente margarita."
So I said "OK, let's go to that new Chili's that opened up, and I'll get you your margarita, and we can sit in the bar because there's a football game I'd like to watch (NFL playoff game)."
She immediately agreed, and we had a GREAT time, just talking and dreaming and drinking and eating chips & queso. I watched some football but also just talked to her, and LISTENED to her. I told her I missed that she used to watch Jaguars games with me. We then brought the boys home some take-out from there, got changed, and went out and saw "Seven Pounds" (GREAT movie!!!), and then went to our favorite local pub for some live music and a final drink, and this morning we made love.
