Matilda, You're probably right about my W, but I have to focus on what I need to do, to turn things around.
We were up for two hours having another R talk. The emphasis this time was my failure to communicate how attractive I thought my W was, and my failure to keep up with household cleaning and maintenance.
She says that I am a withholding person, and that I fail to keep my promises.
She's now upset about hiring a cleaning person, stating that if I cleaned the hardwood floors monthly, we could handle the rest on our own.
I told her that she needs to consider that my behavior, distance, irritablility, is sometimes in response to how I'm treated by her. She won't consider this.
I told her that I would clean the hardwood floors on a monthly basis.
I can be more affirming about her appearance. She shared how insecure she is about turning fifty, and how she felt unattractive in the early years of her life.
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"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
