Hi all. I need some help/advice. Not sure what to do anymore.
H and I have been M for 8 years and have a D7. Last year H had an affair and I found out on my own about it. We talked and decided to try to work things out. Although I was the only one working on things because 2 months later H ran into an old "friend" and they started talking.
Well they have been talking for almost a year now. Here lately the calls have become less frequent between them but not sure that will last. I filed for D in May. Atty fees have to be paid before it will be final which will be in a month or a little longer.
We S in June. I moved out. At first H and I were not getting along at all. I eventually started dating. Not looking for anything other than someone to hang out with and try to take my mind off things.
H started calling me some. Then it became more often. We would hang out with each other from time to time and he would inquire about my dates.
We get along fine and he spends his time with D7. Still talks to OW but as I said it has slacked some lately. We spent the holidays together and talk all the time on the phone. He even comes over and hangs out a lot. We have no talk of getting back together at all.
He is now on a dating site and has started talking to some OW. That started this weekend. But was just hanging out with me this evening. Called me when he got home and talked for over an hour with me.
I know he is cake eating. We still ML occasionally too. I do not make myself available to him all the time. He knows that I date from time to time. He will say things about it but claims he is just messing with me. He does it in a joking manner.
What do I do? Do I just move on? I still love him very much and would love to have our family back together but he does not appear to have the same feelings. It is weird. He is playful with me all the time.
I feel like I am a "fill in" for when the OW is not available.(Not the one he just met). He claims that is not true. He cooks me dinner and invites me over occasionally as well. And it is not like he is doing it to ML because that does not happen all the time. Is it stupid of me to want him when he is doing all of this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
