The last 2 days have been interesting and eventful so I feel the need to talk about it. Yesterday was H's birthday, and when I told him on thursday that he needed to leave he asked if he could wait until after his bday. I said sure because I felt the kids needed to be with him on his bday.
Yesterday was tough for H. His family is mad at him, my family is mad at him, and I think he is mad at himself, he just won't talk about it. He came home after work and the kids and I put together a nice pizza supper, made cupcakes with candles, and handmade/wrapped presents. I could tell that he really appreciated it. I gave him a card that said that I did wish him the best in life and would be here for him as a friend. He cried and gave me a big hug.
After supper, he rented a movie and ppv and invited me to watch with him and the kids. It was nice to have a family evening, and I didn't feel all the anxiety because I had finally made a decision and felt at peace about it. AFter the kids went to bed H went out with some friends. (didn't ask, didn't care)
Today I worked so he stayed home with kids. When I got home he had a bag packed and was crying. Said goodbye to kids and when I asked him where he was going he said to OW, but she isn't there, just sleeping on her couch. IDK if I believe him, but at least he left. He asked if he could come over tomorrow to be with me and the kids, and I agreed.
For the first time, I am at peace with my decision to ask him to leave. Also for the first time, H said "I really want to work this out, we need to work this out". He even said that he loved me. He hasn't said that for almost 3 months. I thought this was at least a step. He still hasn't agreed about the OW, but I didn't bring that up tonight.
Silverfox - I just got Love Must be Tough in the mail today and started reading it. I'm glad to hear that I am already following some of the priciples. Your right, respect is the biggest issue for me, I just can't live in a home without respect.
The consequences that H will experience are many, not just from me I fear. But, I am learning that I have protected him from himself for a long time and it is time that he felt the pain that I have been feelings. I do still want this to work out, but am learning to stand up for myself and live one day at a time.
I would love to hear Puppy's take on this. I seem to see that he is big on consequences.
