Hi Veronica, I think that's a big part of it - looking for explanations that make sense...reading through other threads and seeing how often they involve in OP - it just seems to help make sense of things - though I know not every situation has an OP - and mine seems to be one of the ones where there isn't one (yet, at least). I think it's just that I knew an EA was starting when the bomb dropped - but I really do know that this EA just kind of amounted to nothing...once I knew about it, I just asked her to be sure that she didn't talk about anything with him that she would be embarrassed of if I were in the room...don't know if those words mattered to her - but they did let her know that I knew things were a bit too flirtatious between her and her "mentor".
Still...I did notice, even before she moved out and switched her phone, that she didn't get calls or texts from him anymore - nor did she call or text him anymore...even by July...so I stopped worrying about it...she has this habit of getting really into someone briefly - and then having reality strike - and then she loses faith in that person - and some things she said about her mentor told me that she had gone through that process with him pretty quickly...
These days, I can just see that there isn't an OP - partly because I know how she would dress herself up to impress someone if she were - but on nights when she comes be - nights that could easily be a date night - she never looks made up - sometimes she looks like she's even just neglected herself a bit (which I think is sad). Anyway...all this just to say, yes, it is strange to think that she prefers being by herself than work on restoring our family - but first working on herself...
I had a great time with the boys today - albeit brief. My baby boy was still under the weather - so he would play and then break down - but it was nice to have him home with us for a little while. After my W picked him up, my S11 and I went out to his favorite bakery for lunch...which was nice...though right now I am feeling sleepy from eating too much sugar I think...they're pastries are just irresistible.
