M, I think your h is being a mushroom right now and that is sitting in the apartment and thinking/sleeping. He's got a lot to digest and figure out how to repair.
He's a big boy and he's right at that stage where you can address your true feelings w/him. I don't see any harm in what you told him...it was the truth. Now, let's see what he does w/that.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
