Hey Ali- Personally, I think it would be cruel to talk to you about his relationship with Helen. If I have compassion and care for someone that still has feelings for me (that I was in a long term R with), I am not going to 'rub it in their face' that I am 'with' someone else. Blech.
Regarding reaching out or not-- I'll leave that to the experts. My only observation is that you have been expressing a lot of regrets for how you handled things this past year. (ie, not speaking up, acting like you're fine, etc.) Whatever you decide, try to make sure it is something you can live with no matter the outcome.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
