Aiiiyeee! No! No turning up at his flat in an overcoat. It might work for the night, or the week, or the month, or the year. But do you want to be together for a year? or do you want a relationship that is built to last?
I manage people at work, and there is this fella who is sort of not very satisfied with his deal. he wants to look for a different position. I didn't want to lose him, he is talented and productive. And I bent and bent in order to make a better deal for him, to entice him to stay with my team. And he agreed. But you know, a week later he was back with the dissatisfied attitude. Here's the thing I have realized: I have sold him too hard. He will be happy or he won't; and what I do beyond what I have done already, is pointless. I may "make the sale" and convince him to stay for now but his eyes will wander again.
You have made it clear that you think the relationship is worth saving. Enough now. No more selling. The R will work if he wants it enough. If you have to beg him to come back, it is set off on a bad restart.
The best thing you can do for your future relationship, whomever it will be with, (this is true for me, and I'll bet it is true for you, too) is to get a life, and rebuild yourself better than before. Become strong and independent. Fall in love all over again... with yourself! This is irresistably attractive, but more importantly, it will bring resiliency to you, which you will rely on in times of inevitable trouble in the future.
