Was that a speedbump or a milestone?

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Sleeper, All of us on here are familiar with the ranting and raving, so do realize that I've been there.

You're going to have to put up with some of it for a while as you are taking a . Setting the boundaries is fair and realistic and, as snodderly pointed out, she needs to respect you and your time and your life. It's scary, but a good thing in the long run AND in the short run. If you wouldn't put up with it from a friend, you should not have to from her.

She may not let on, but she will respect you for it. Although I can't claim any kind of stunning success in other areas, respect DID increase when I set boundaries.

You have done a good job of being kind; you can continue to do that while you GAL. You don't have to rub things in her face, but you can be mysterious

And continue to be dark as much as you can.

What if, when she asks if you are mad, you tell her the truth? That you are not angry but that you didn't deserve this kind of outrage?