I listen to guy friends repeat what women they date (or are about to date) say to them.
"My heart has been broken many times before."
"I have trust issues."
"I don't know how to trust men."
"Please, never hurt me."
My honest response to my guy pals when I hear those words coming from other women is, "RUN... RUN AWAY.... FAR FAR AWAY!!!!"
Undoubtably it's because it described me to a "T".. The underlying feeling was that I was helpless, that I needed to be protected, that this guy had to take care of me.. that the burden of my happiness and emotional health was on HIM. Where can I stick my 'I'm a Victim' pin?
It was also a sneaky way to ... not agressively, knowingly.. gain control.. When a guy reacted positively to that, then part of my responsibility to myself was off the hook because he was taking it on.
Helllllllllllllllllo!
The more aware, confident Kathleen isn't gonna go there anymore.. and if I find myself doing that.. well heck, I'm making my own hell.
Me... I'd like to meet a fun loving guy with a good sense of humor who likes to banter with me.. who challenges me in good ways, the same way I'd challenge him. And you know what.. I'm hope to meet lots of guys like that!
Let me tell you... an (single) intelligent guy with wit, a twinkle in his eye and deep love for his children is my idea of sexxxxxxxxxxxxxxy!!! (gggrrrRRRRRrrrowllll .. purrrrr)
