Mike, there has got to be a woman out there in your neck of the woods who knows who she is and what she wants. And who will live up to your completely reasonable expectations. It just may take time. And it sounds like, to be totally honest, you aren't ready for the BIG relationship yet anyway.
I know BBJ..I know..I just keep running into more of the same and it frustrates me..in reality there is not much of what I'm looking for..it's probably .1% normal(my normal anyway) to 99.9% batchitt crazy here so the pickins are slim..
and I am doing what I suggest for John..I'm pretty much in date and discard mode until I find what I'm looking for..Sounds like I may have to move to Memphis..
I'm just trying to understand the woman want abuser/bad boy thing better that's all..I figure the more I learn and the faster I learn it then the faster I'll be able to detect it and discard them...
and when I read all that that sounds so awful...but I have every right to be picky..and I'm not ready or looking for something serious..I want something to just develop if it's there, naturally..I think that's the best and only way to go..
I have NEVER been into the 'bad boy'. However, as the fixer, I have been drawn to the 'hurt/wounded boy'. My first boyfriend (OK i have only had two, him and H! )--anyway boyfriend #1 was a weightlifter, football player, etc etc but that was all to make up for his insecurity inside. He was soft spoken/shy, but smart. His step-dad abused his mom and he would defend her and get hurt himself. They had very little money and he only had a few friends. He also had a terrible temper and would punch things/break things when his stepdad punished him by not allowing him to call me, see me, etc...
I thought he was such a great guy, and in a lot of ways he was, but I couldn't save him from his life. I don't know how I ever thought I could...
Anyway I don't do "bad" and I will try to avoid "wounded" in the future, too...
BTW he wound up with kids from a lady he didn't marry and now he lives in our hometown again, just like me! Who knew...
They got their a$$es handed to 'em! I can't stand Nick Saban. You think Bama might have second thoughts about the $6 million they are paying him per year?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
yep..they got their asses handed to them for sure..could not match the speed and quickness..the suspension of smith hurt them for sure..Utah's no huddle inthe 1st quarter caught the Tide Unprepared and on their heels many times..Saban is a great coach Mish..don;t hate the palya, hate the game...
I listen to guy friends repeat what women they date (or are about to date) say to them.
"My heart has been broken many times before."
"I have trust issues."
"I don't know how to trust men."
"Please, never hurt me."
My honest response to my guy pals when I hear those words coming from other women is, "RUN... RUN AWAY.... FAR FAR AWAY!!!!"
Undoubtably it's because it described me to a "T".. The underlying feeling was that I was helpless, that I needed to be protected, that this guy had to take care of me.. that the burden of my happiness and emotional health was on HIM. Where can I stick my 'I'm a Victim' pin?
It was also a sneaky way to ... not agressively, knowingly.. gain control.. When a guy reacted positively to that, then part of my responsibility to myself was off the hook because he was taking it on.
Helllllllllllllllllo!
The more aware, confident Kathleen isn't gonna go there anymore.. and if I find myself doing that.. well heck, I'm making my own hell.
Me... I'd like to meet a fun loving guy with a good sense of humor who likes to banter with me.. who challenges me in good ways, the same way I'd challenge him. And you know what.. I'm hope to meet lots of guys like that!
Let me tell you... an (single) intelligent guy with wit, a twinkle in his eye and deep love for his children is my idea of sexxxxxxxxxxxxxxy!!! (gggrrrRRRRRrrrowllll .. purrrrr)
)--anyway boyfriend #1 was a weightlifter, football player, etc etc but that was all to make up for his insecurity inside. He was soft spoken/shy, but smart. His step-dad abused his mom and he would defend her and get hurt himself. They had very little money and he only had a few friends. He also had a terrible temper and would punch things/break things when his stepdad punished him by not allowing him to call me, see me, etc...