With all the momentous changes you're making, my worry flag went up that with so much going on, what IS about the relationship gets sidetracked. There are so many diversions, busy-iness that the foundation of what's making it work gets ignored.
Building a house, renovating the lil pete and possibly making a baby all take on a life of their own.
Before the conflicts with blending the family.. yours, hers, y'all's created strife. How is all that going? How goes the counseling?
Thanks for letting me share my angst.. I know you're a grown man with a good head on your shoulders and a plan for your future.