Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[Trixi]

and its a bit unfair of your H to give his SS hope about your R, then turn round and sort of end it with you a day later, just as SS is about to go into rehab and could do with support and stability and loving foundations to help him get sober.. not more drama! That really struck me just how selfish and immature your MLCer H is right now, he is really only thinking of himself, to do that just as the rehab is about to happen.. and the smoking pot in front of his son, like you say, as that is not helping !!!

That was one of the things that ESPECIALLY pissed SS off. He said to H "Look, if I thought you didn't love Mama and there was nothing there to build off of, I'd agree that you should move on. But that's not the case. But because you are so selfish and immature, you dump her exactly when I need the most support and a stable environment. You want to play around with your 'boyfriend' [RM]. I need a DAD right now."

As far as I'm concerned, I am in LRT. If I wasn't dark, I would have called up my H and told him exactly how inappropriate it was to talk to the RM about SS asking him to not smoke pot to show support for his sobriety. Obviously, however H told it to him, he must have been expressing how stupid he thought it was, otherwise, RM wouldn't have thought he could say such a thing. I would also point out going to a 25yo arrogant, pot smoking, anti-marriage, self centered KID about what to do about his 11 year marriage is idiotic. BUT, since I am not dealing with his BS anymore, I'm not going to call. However, if he happens to be stuck in a car with me for a couple hours on Wednesday- it might come up.

I actually think that SS ragging on him about being a Dad and saying to stop being immature and selfish, is hurting the sitch more than helping. Seems like H is rebelling against the whole idea and it just galvanizes him to "focus on himself". Oh well.