She's saying that she wants me be more of a partner, to be more thoughtful. to communicate more, to think how my actions affect her, to be more appreciative,...
Is that like the pot calling the kettle black? You should consider being on the tv show, "wife swap". I think your wife might be surprised at how thoughtfu, etc, you are compared to a lot of husbands! I admire your ability to not get angry, but to see how you can improve the situation.
