Matilda, Thanks for the reference. I'm not going to pursue my W in regards to monitoring her self improvement, but will let her know of your website if she's looking for resources.
I'm reading a poetry anthology book. In this book it talks about paraphrasing a poem as an exercise in trying to understand its theme or meaning. This is different than its subject.
I'm thinking this is also a useful life and listening skill. It's easy to get tripped up by the subject matter, when my W is angry with me. I must practice to weather the storm, and afterwards think about what is the theme that she is trying to convey.
I thought about last night, when she was angry with me (again). She's saying that she wants me be more of a partner, to be more thoughtful. to communicate more, to think how my actions affect her, to be more appreciative, to take more pride in my appearance and in the appearance of the household.
She appreciates the prepared crockpot meals. I need to keep it up. It keeps us out of restaurants, and she complains less often about being hungry.
Dancing keeps us connected to the dance community. It promotes the building and maintenance of friendships.
At last night's venue we met a friend who is currently living in Mexico. My W and I mentioned to her our interest in world travel. She invited us to come visit her, and has been disappointed that she has yet to have visitors from our community. This opportunity may evolve into a trip.
My W has begun preparing the house for the cleaning service on 1/6, by working on clutter, so that areas can be cleaned.
I've reduced my evening hours at work to 6PM three nights a week, so that I can pick-up the puppy from daycare, so that she can have a quiet transition home from work, and a break from an active puppy. The change in hours, also makes me more available for connection in the evenings.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
