Cinders, You don't know for sure whether your h suffered from depression. Men experience depression differently from women. Also, you do not have any idea what he is like when he's not w/you.
Acting out, running from responsibilities, etc., work driven, the ow, all could be part of his depression. Don't forget, they wear masks around those they want to fool.
Each person deals w/depression differently.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
