I guess my question is, what makes you fellows willing to consider taking your wife back? What's the difference between someone who is willing to try and someone who is not? Maybe I should't ask this question, but if I was your wife, would you have been willing to try? I think probably yes, because you are on this website, but still, we all have different tolerance levels.
Hi Mel,
From what I've read -- but I'm not sure how up-to-date the statistics are -- women tend to be more likely to stay and try to work things out when there has been infidelity. While the percentage of men willing to do this is typically lower.
I think kids are often a driving force behind the desire to stay and work things out. In addition, it will probably also depend on your husband's history; i.e. how he views family, his prior connection to you and his children, if he likes change or prefers what he's used to, if he meets someone while he's separated, if he turns to alcohol rather then dealing with his emotions about the situation, etc.....
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
