It is up to H to come back to ME, then I will decide if I want to get back together.
Trixi, WAY TO GO!! I'm so proud of you woman. That's right, this is your decision. He doesn't have the power to decide your life or your happiness. He should be the one who deserves to be with you, not the other way around. You could take that phrase and print it out and have it by your desk to see everyday if you want. I find motivational phrases help me. This is also the exact message behind DB. GAL, LRT, Acting As If- All of these techniques really help you first and foremost, help you take care of yourself again- and give the M a 'last chance' if there is any possibility for it. Like Nik mentioned (and Michelle says about the LRT), pulling away and having a great life without the WAS sometimes draws them back toward you- so you are actually doing everything possible for the sitch by "moving on." May this now be the beginning of a great NEW year for you!
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...he hadn't had a chance to 'be on his own' and 'focus on himself'
OMG, my stbx said the exact same thing as his reason. And in my head I keep thinking what an idiot- but it's his prob, not yours. Always remember that.
DBer since 2003 D - 3/24/09 GAL and DBing for myself
