BBJ, what you describe here is an unhealthy, detached husband who is simply not strong enough to "be there" for anyone else. It's not an attraction that these other women had, it's a lazy self centered, I want to not have to work for it attitude that made these others attractive. He only praises them out of selfishness, not out of respect.
So the question isn't should you change and be more in charge, the question is can Dan grow up and recognize what a real man and husband does for the woman he loves.....
