Maybe I should be in piecing part 5?

[Hope4us]

Ok, First ladies, let me say I totally respect your advise and the help you've offered me, and take don't take this as me being upset, because I'm not, I'm just trying to understand, but...

Where did I say anything about jumping her bones? I said some affection. Like holding hands, or hugs or a freakin kiss. I'm not expecting her to jump into bed with me and ravage me, although that would be nice .

And I've been hitting every LL there is. I've been buying her gifts, complimenting her on her looks, her figure, how she smells, I've taken her on dates and if I try to touch her hand, she pulls it away. I've listened and listened and validated and validated. I do all kinds of things around the house to help her out as well as take care of all the manly stuff. I complement/thank her for every dinner she fixes. I just don't know what other LL there is out there that I've not hit on repeatedly for months and months now.

Remember the Coach purse I bought her for her birthday in November? It's still in it's bag in the closet. She hasn't used it yet. She was really excited to get it and thanked me multiple times in the days after and then put it in the closet where it sits to this day.

Today is a perfect example. We've had probably a week of great days. We went shopping for a bit and on the drive I put my hand on her leg and I could just tell she didn't want it there. After the first shop we got in the car and she put her gloves and purse on her lap/leg so I couldn't put my hand there. I've tried hugging her and it's like a hug you get from your neice or nephew. I've tried giving her a peck on the lips and it's like kissing a warm fish.

This morning I had to take her car in to get some minor repairs done on it. Before I left I put a note on her purse asking "Would you like to go have dinner and see 'Marley and Me' tonight"? I got back and asked what she thought and she just looked at me and didn't really respond. So here we sit tonight. We have gone out to eat on a semi-regular basis the last couple months and I never push anything. I routinely tell her I had a good time when we do stuff together.

And I do these things genuinely. Theres nothing fake about them because I truly am appreciative for her and the things she does and the things we do together. But still NOTHING.

It's almost like she's made up her mind that there's no way she'll ever have feelings for me as a way to make herself feel justified for having the affair and to let herself have feelings or do anything to try to work on our marriage she would have to admit it was a mistake and she is just so stubborn she won't go there.

It's kind of like Puppy said, how many times can you get rejected before you just give up?