Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[Trixi]

Spoke with SS earlier. Apparently H and RM have gone snowboarding today. After I left yesterday, H hid out in his bedroom for about 2 hours and when he finally came back out, SS was cold and distant. H asked what his problem was and SS said that he was extremely pissed at him. He read him the riot act and said that he couldn't believe how incredibly selfish H was being. He asked wtf he was doing having me around for Christmas and New Years and then dumping me the day after. SS told him he was making the biggest mistake of his life.

H's explanation to him was that because he had SS at such an early age, and then had focused so heavily on success at work that he hadn't had a chance to 'be on his own' and 'focus on himself'. H also said that "Maybe Trixi will change her mind and then I'll decide if I want to get back together with her". I asked SS 3 times if that was what he said because it was the exact opposite of the reality. It is up to H to come back to ME, then I will decide if I want to get back together. SS said that I was probably taking it wrong; the intent (the way he understood it) was that H would have to decide if he was ready to do what he needed. H also said the same thing about "maybe he will change his mind and maybe I will be here, maybe not."

SS wishes he could move out. In a convo between myself, SS and H, SS had said he really wanted his dad to not smoke pot in support of his sobriety. Yesterday, RM picked up a pack of cigarettes for SS (because H asked him to) and then called SS into his room and said "I'm going to give you these, but I need to make something clear. Don't you dare talk about what your dad puts into his body because you smoke and that is far worse for your body than pot. You have no right to say anything to him about that and if you ever do that again I will never buy you another pack of cigarettes--do I make myself clear?"
SS was livid. It was a convo between the 3 of us and H talked to RM about it. And who the f*ck does RM think he is? UGH I am very glad that SS is about to go into rehab for 3 weeks and get the heck out of that house. Of course, I am still worried about what will happen when he returns.

Intellectually, I know I should be running as fast as possible in the other direction. I just can't wrap my head around how much my H has regressed/immature'd.

I am going to be writing down the "requirements" that H would have to meet if he were to show back up on my doorstep. "Status Quo" is certainly not going to cut the mustard. And previously, I would have cut him slack because I was willing to "understand" his confusion. No more. He has hurt me for the last time. *If* he comes back, I will expect an immediate status change on FB; I will expect an immediate timeline be set for us to live together again; I will need to meet all of his friends within a month (or at least an attempt be made-for example a party held); I would need to see remorse and a full understanding of the hurt he has caused me. Additionally, I would expect smoking inside the house to stop; I would expect that I would have a lot more say in the decorating of the house.These things are WAY more than I would expect from some guy I was just starting to date, but we are long past those days. I'm not going to be strung along. Game over.