Hey Rob, Got to say that female attention you're getting left me a bit jealous...have to admit that I look forward to experiencing that again (and feeling more available to the attention).
When I read you summary of of the in-laws I thought I was reading about my own W...the similarities just don't end, do they? It's when I think of her family and how the facilitate that I find myself thinking she hardly has a chance...especially since I think they know that her getting healthy would mean a lot of skeletons would have to be pulled from the family closet...
In many ways, that you have the chance to raise your daughter away from your XW's toxic family is a good thing...as it will offer her a constant kind of sanctuary from that destructive kind of space...with you she'll always have someone that does the work required to be a better man...