Yes, your views may go back and forth but I think you did an amazing thing speaking to your h in that way. You deserve so much more than a 3-way relationship. That can never be a marriage. What you said you said for yourself and for your marriage. I hope that you feel proud of yourself, amidst the terrible sadness you must feel. They are not ready to work on the m until the OP is out of their systems. We cannot change that.
