Thanks, Waiting Patiently, InLikeFlynn, and Breakaway. On Wifey's advice, I will stick to my thread in Newcomer's. I just wanted to ask that question, I guess.
Thanks to everyone who responded.
Breakaway, thank you. I am really torn sometimes between knowing he has a problem and how often it is really out of hand. For the last 3 years it hasn't been a problem, but now that he has decided to take drinking back up again, I could easily see it becoming a problem. He is convinced now that since I was the one who had the affairs, the problems were all in my head and his friends and brother are telling him that repeatedly so I am sure he is starting to believe it. I probably did overreact some when we were younger, but because I wanted him to want to be with me! I guess for now, in the hopes of a R, I will back off the drinking issue. I don't know how much he is drinking now, so it is kind of speculation about how much on my part, except that he says he likes being single again and not having to answer to anyone about his drinking.
Thank you all, again.
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
