I need some really solid advice and prayers. My W is living in the house now for financial reasons and will stay here for most of the year. She has said time and time again that she does not want to work on our marriage, but that she wants to want to. This has been consistent. It means very little, because the reality is she could work on M, but chooses not to. I could earn extra income by next week and make it possible for her to move out and on, which is what she continually says she wants to do. I still really want to save our marriage, so if I make it possible for her to move out am I blowing the last chance at saving our M? She still talks to the OM who I believe she's had an EA/PA with (I've been reading "Not Just Friends" and I really feel that she became physical w/him). What do I do? She does nothing genuine to show interest in me as more than a friend, but she does value our friendship and wants it to continue. Is that enough to hold onto? Last night she was looking for a place to move to and saying we definitely need to be apart and that our R is not good, that she can only see me as a friend. Today, after I was out for a few hours, she and I go to a store and she starts looking at things for the house and says she wants to buy this and that for "our home." I really believe she is just being manipulative, so I didn't say anything in response. Should I say something like "it really confuses me when you look to buy things for 'our' home?" Should I make a way for her to move out? Will there be any hope after that? Or, is her staying just a prelude to the big bomb later this year? Please let me know what you all would do. I will pray for clarity and make a decision on Monday. Thank you so much.
