WAW - Possible MLC I need help, WAWs advice IV

[dday101798]

....If her whole life is about OM and she is in love with him and he is in love with her then why is she miserable?....

Well, if she's anything like my W, and virtually every situation you describe sounds exactly the same, the two of them must own a hell of a lot of stock in Tums Antacids, mine was/is eating half a damn bottle of things daily. Why? Well, if what my W says now is true, that she misses me and thinks of me daily, then it's because she knows what she's doing is wrong and that deep down inside, her reasons to justify her actions are not valid.

Seems to me, yours just has to hit that wall, and in due time she will. I thought mine wasn't going to, in the last month I've gone into complete defense mode, planning to move out, packing, spending as much time as I can with the kids, etc. And I think that was a reality check, seeing all my stuff packed, seeing me boxed and ready to go, and that's exactly it, and that must have scared her back to reality or something, the fact that I WILL BE GONE.

I could be way off, who knows. I don't even think she knows yet, but at aeast she realised what she's losing out on. And again, if yours is anything like mine, one day she will wake up and ask herself what in the world am I thinking? No house, no car, no money, and a loveless R with someone she shouldn't be with in the first place.