Was giving D17.99 a ride to her BF's house this morning and I said to her that I wanted her to know that me telling her mom that I didn't want her to come into the house every school morning was me setting a boundary, and not me being mean.
She said she understood that I try not to be mean but changes have to be made. Said that W didn't seem bothered by it at all. However, when I told W not to come in the house any more, there was an undercurrent of unhappiness but I suppose she accepts this is the path we are on.
I said to D17 that W is probably happy with the way her life is right now and D17 said "Would it really be so bad if she is happy?"
I wanted to say "Well, yes because her happiness is based on making decisions that hurt her family."
But, I didn't.
I just said "I hope when you find yourself in a committed relationship you learned from our mistakes and handle issues differently"
She said that she doesn't expect she will ever get married.
I felt that way too when I was growing up. My dad divorced twice and I really didn't think anyone would stay with me.
