He does not acknowledge that he has caused pain, or that he has anything really to make up for.
He does not find himself able to even VERBALLY express deep and profound love for you at this point. Let alone show ANY physical manifestation of such a love towards you.
He has already resorted to anger and accusations towards you because you are frustrating him. Well, I am sorry, he does not get to be frustrated quite this early. His patience must be nearly infinite at this point, after all he has put you through.
This is not a man who recognizes ANYTHING about what the past couple years have meant to you.
He simply wants BACK what he once HAD.
A relationship where little is required, and where a small effort on his part will be acceptable to you.
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He should be turning over EVERY stone, making EVERY effort, paying ANY price to win your love back. And I don't care what anyone else has to say about him being afraid and scared. It's absolutely ridiculous to think that a grown man could be THIS clueless.
This so much describes my W during the 'piecing' we went through 2 years ago. I continued to try to win HER back. She just fell back into the 'old relationship' where she didn't have to give as much as she took.
She didn't ask for forgiveness really, and justified her actions as required for 'growth'. She did not try to win me back. In fact, I recall a few times in the first month or so where she was frustrated that it wasn't 'just working'. So I tried harder.
