I appreciate the hope as well. Thank you. Your pastor may have been referring to marriages in which people placed their vows in God. We did not. That doesn't mean that I don't take those vows seriously.
I do think that these affairs burn themselves out... but it can take a long time. And yes, I also think that almost all the WAS or MLCers (my h is a bit of both) will regret their actions and decisions. That doesn't mean that they will come back. However, in the end, they will have more to live with, to bear, than us. I say that not in a spirit of revenge, not at all, it's just most of us married good people who have gotten off the track for whatever reason. At some point, they will review and perhaps re-think what they have done... but again, it could take a long time. If we don't recon, I hope at least some day to have a true apology or recognition from my h of the complete devastation brought about by his lack of honesty and conduct. By then I will probably have processed the loss almost completely; ironically that may be the beginning of his doing so. He is in the vortex of new love right now and I'm sure barely gives a thought to me or our m.
