Seen them lots and was the first concert that I took D11 and D13 to (Snakes and Arrows tour).
Any of you who only remember Geddy's high voice from the early days have missed out on some superb music with highly intelligent lyrics that will fit some of the situations that all of us here find ourselves in.
Neil Peart lost his daughter in a car accident and then his wife through cancer (perhaps brought on by a broken heart) shortly after. His book Ghost Rider is an excellent read about him riding his motorbike all over the place as therapy and escape. A very touching read. The grief and loss we probably feel in a similar way about our spouses who are no longer the people they were (or who we thought they were anyway).
Rush are cool again and pop up in various places. Check out the Family Guy clip on Youtube (search for "Chester The Cheeto On Family Guy" within Youtube). Check out "geddy lee winter advice" while you are there. Alex Lifeson (Rush guitarist) pops up in Trailer Park Boys.
To hopeful4her: You will love the Snakes and Arrows DVD.
On a related subject, Alex Lifeson (Rush guitarist) talks a little about his marriage difficulties (taking for granted etc. but sorted out - hope for us all!) that influenced his solo album Victor: "As for the anger on the album, there were relationships breaking down all around me, I was having problems in my relationship. My wife and I realised that we'd started to take each other for granted; there'd been a lot of work, I'd been away a lot. It's uncommon to have stayed together as long as we have stayed together. We'd reached a crisis in our relationship and we needed to strip it down and analyse it and find where we were going. Other relationships around me were breaking down also, a lot of my friends who are the same age were really reaching a mid-life crisis. ... All this stuff was happening around me, and I just thought about the darker side of relationships and love. By nature I'm very optimistic, a little romantic, a little funny maybe, but I felt really impassioned by all the stuff that was going around, and that was reflected in that album." - Alex Lifeson, Classic Rock, July 2002
Anyway, I would be grateful if any of you can give me some advice. I had some responses to my post but only from one person. My wife has totally checked out and wants nothing to do with me at all. Do I just wait and hope that the affair hits reality or what?
OM was with my wife and children on Boxing Day and the day after. I had the children for a few days and she went to stay in the house belonging to the parents of OM (he currently lives with an ex-girlfriend - he is also divorced at least once - what a track record). Wife has now taken the children to stay there for a few days - nice. She is moving quick.
This is horrible but she seems determined to make this work. It is as if she would pair up with any available man just as long as it is not me.
Me: 42 WAW: 42 M: 15 years T: 20 years (plus a bit more before on-and-off) D: 11 D: 13 EA: Feb 2008 PA: April 2008 (discovered immediately) I moved out: April 2008 Filed by W Sept 2008
