I was emailing the wife at about 11:15 today. I was going to let her know that we never left the house yesterday and that we might go to the movies later and that we'll pick up D11's backpack during that time, if it was ok.
Typing the first sentence, she calls me. I told her that I was JUST emailing her at the same time, to which she laughed. She says that she just started her lunch anyway. I let her know that we were bums yesterday, watched movies, cooked lunch then dinner and we went to bed really late. That we never made it to my parents house, either.
She says, 'You never went to your moms?"
I told her no and then she says that she waited and waited and waited for us yesterday.
I then told her our plans of visiting my parents today and going to the movies. She says that we need to pick up D11's backpack and I tell her that we will. She asked about the girls and I told her that D7 was on my bed playing with her 'rat'. She corrected me,
"She playing with her hamster." "Her rat."
D7 corrects me too and I just laugh. I tell the wife that I don't know why they think I'm afraid of them, I just don't care for them. She says that its D7 that thinks I am.
Then she asks if I work tomorrow and I tell her that I'm off and then I ask why.
She says that she is off tomorrow too and that if I worked, she was going to offer to switch weekends.
Switch weekends? Yeah right.
"Everytime its my weekend, I work. I'm tired of that." "Well, I'm off." "Then next weekend, you work and I work." I give dead air.
"Well...never mind. Thats ok."
At that time, I ask D7 if she wants to talk to her mom and she says yes. They talk for a bit. I hear the wife tell her she misses her and D7 says it back.
"No you don't. I miss you more." "Yes I do. I miss you."
Just talking, then the wife tells her that she will let her go and to "Let daddy know that I'll call him later, okay?"
I still sent her the email, which after I sent it, thought that I shouldn't have, but it was too late. About 45 minutes after we talked. And I also remembered that she was off LAST Saturday when she had the girls.
"Howdy.
The girls talked me into us not leaving the house at all, so...
Okay, we just spoke on the phone. I'm emailing you and your calling me at the same time. Do you realize how many times we do goofy stuff like that without trying. Like when we used to say the same thing at the same time. Goofy.
JuliAna got me distracted, so I'll finish the email.
Not sure what time we'll go to mom and dads or the movies today. Either way, we will stop by the apartment and get Amanda's backpack, just not sure what time.
I thought you were off last Saturday? Anyway, I've been wanting to go to this place in Marble Falls,
Tonight or tomorrow night. If we go, you are welcome to join us if you don't have any plans. If we go, it should be around 7, because it probably takes about an hour to get there. Let us know if your interested.
Enjoy lunch.
R"
I was, as usual, too nice sounding.
I sent it knowing she won't take me up on the offer, but she'll know that we are going to have fun. I think that was more the reason why I sent it. And a reminder that she was off last Saturday when she had the girls.
Her memory sucks. And she is feeling sh*tty that she doesn't have the girls with her right now.
The pains of being a part time parent, just like I told her she was making us and she denied it.
Dumbass.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Feel Like Makin' Love by Paul Rodgers and Bad Company
Baby, when I think about you I think about love Darlin, dont live without you And your love If I had those golden dreams Of my yesterdays I would wrap you in the heaven till Im dyin on the way
Feel like makin Feel like makin love Feel like makin love to you
Baby, if I think about you I think about love Darlin if I live without you I live without love If I had the sun and moon I would give you both night and day Of satisfyn
Feel like makin Feel like makinlove Feel like makin love to you
And if I had those golden dreams Of my yesterdays I would wrap you in the heaven til Im dyin on the way
Feel like makin love Feel like makin love (repeat many times) Feel like makin love to you[/i]
So Pup, what exactly are you trying to say here?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Seen them lots and was the first concert that I took D11 and D13 to (Snakes and Arrows tour).
Any of you who only remember Geddy's high voice from the early days have missed out on some superb music with highly intelligent lyrics that will fit some of the situations that all of us here find ourselves in.
Neil Peart lost his daughter in a car accident and then his wife through cancer (perhaps brought on by a broken heart) shortly after. His book Ghost Rider is an excellent read about him riding his motorbike all over the place as therapy and escape. A very touching read. The grief and loss we probably feel in a similar way about our spouses who are no longer the people they were (or who we thought they were anyway).
Rush are cool again and pop up in various places. Check out the Family Guy clip on Youtube (search for "Chester The Cheeto On Family Guy" within Youtube). Check out "geddy lee winter advice" while you are there. Alex Lifeson (Rush guitarist) pops up in Trailer Park Boys.
To hopeful4her: You will love the Snakes and Arrows DVD.
On a related subject, Alex Lifeson (Rush guitarist) talks a little about his marriage difficulties (taking for granted etc. but sorted out - hope for us all!) that influenced his solo album Victor: "As for the anger on the album, there were relationships breaking down all around me, I was having problems in my relationship. My wife and I realised that we'd started to take each other for granted; there'd been a lot of work, I'd been away a lot. It's uncommon to have stayed together as long as we have stayed together. We'd reached a crisis in our relationship and we needed to strip it down and analyse it and find where we were going. Other relationships around me were breaking down also, a lot of my friends who are the same age were really reaching a mid-life crisis. ... All this stuff was happening around me, and I just thought about the darker side of relationships and love. By nature I'm very optimistic, a little romantic, a little funny maybe, but I felt really impassioned by all the stuff that was going around, and that was reflected in that album." - Alex Lifeson, Classic Rock, July 2002
Anyway, I would be grateful if any of you can give me some advice. I had some responses to my post but only from one person. My wife has totally checked out and wants nothing to do with me at all. Do I just wait and hope that the affair hits reality or what?
OM was with my wife and children on Boxing Day and the day after. I had the children for a few days and she went to stay in the house belonging to the parents of OM (he currently lives with an ex-girlfriend - he is also divorced at least once - what a track record). Wife has now taken the children to stay there for a few days - nice. She is moving quick.
This is horrible but she seems determined to make this work. It is as if she would pair up with any available man just as long as it is not me.
Me: 42 WAW: 42 M: 15 years T: 20 years (plus a bit more before on-and-off) D: 11 D: 13 EA: Feb 2008 PA: April 2008 (discovered immediately) I moved out: April 2008 Filed by W Sept 2008
I was emailing the wife at about 11:15 today. I was going to let her know that we never left the house yesterday and that we might go to the movies later and that we'll pick up D11's backpack during that time, if it was ok.
Typing the first sentence, she calls me. I told her that I was JUST emailing her at the same time, to which she laughed. She says that she just started her lunch anyway. I let her know that we were bums yesterday, watched movies, cooked lunch then dinner and we went to bed really late. That we never made it to my parents house, either.
She says, 'You never went to your moms?"
I told her no and then she says that she waited and waited and waited for us yesterday.
I then told her our plans of visiting my parents today and going to the movies. She says that we need to pick up D11's backpack and I tell her that we will. She asked about the girls and I told her that D7 was on my bed playing with her 'rat'. She corrected me,
"She playing with her hamster." "Her rat."
D7 corrects me too and I just laugh. I tell the wife that I don't know why they think I'm afraid of them, I just don't care for them. She says that its D7 that thinks I am.
Then she asks if I work tomorrow and I tell her that I'm off and then I ask why.
She says that she is off tomorrow too and that if I worked, she was going to offer to switch weekends.
Switch weekends? Yeah right.
"Everytime its my weekend, I work. I'm tired of that." "Well, I'm off." "Then next weekend, you work and I work." I give dead air.
"Well...never mind. Thats ok."
At that time, I ask D7 if she wants to talk to her mom and she says yes. They talk for a bit. I hear the wife tell her she misses her and D7 says it back.
"No you don't. I miss you more." "Yes I do. I miss you."
Just talking, then the wife tells her that she will let her go and to "Let daddy know that I'll call him later, okay?"
I still sent her the email, which after I sent it, thought that I shouldn't have, but it was too late. About 45 minutes after we talked. And I also remembered that she was off LAST Saturday when she had the girls.
"Howdy.
The girls talked me into us not leaving the house at all, so...
Okay, we just spoke on the phone. I'm emailing you and your calling me at the same time. Do you realize how many times we do goofy stuff like that without trying. Like when we used to say the same thing at the same time. Goofy.
JuliAna got me distracted, so I'll finish the email.
Not sure what time we'll go to mom and dads or the movies today. Either way, we will stop by the apartment and get Amanda's backpack, just not sure what time.
I thought you were off last Saturday? Anyway, I've been wanting to go to this place in Marble Falls,
Tonight or tomorrow night. If we go, you are welcome to join us if you don't have any plans. If we go, it should be around 7, because it probably takes about an hour to get there. Let us know if your interested.
Enjoy lunch.
R"
I was, as usual, too nice sounding.
I sent it knowing she won't take me up on the offer, but she'll know that we are going to have fun. I think that was more the reason why I sent it. And a reminder that she was off last Saturday when she had the girls.
Her memory sucks. And she is feeling sh*tty that she doesn't have the girls with her right now.
The pains of being a part time parent, just like I told her she was making us and she denied it.
And was the email THAT bad? It was the first part, wasn't it?
1. Yes, I've had a fantasy or two about pinch-hitting for the other team, LOL
2. You're just way too damned nice and chatty with her. You are like Karen with her smiley faces, x 20. I'm sure she loves that about you, but you've also NEVER given her a chance to really MISS that about you.
