I wonder how long it will take my W to look more at herself than me for her anger...she was back in her regular mode again this morning when she dropped off my baby boy. For some reason, she had expected to have him with her today (though he was with her all through the holidays) - and so a few days I gently suggested that I had expected today to be a regular Friday with him - just as tomorrow would be a regular Saturday. She didn't respond to the email I had sent her about today and tomorrow (at least not by email) and it wasn't until yesterday that she mentioned that I could have him today...
So, this morning she called, and said that "what they were doing" finished early - and so she brought him by earlier than expected - I had expected him until around 1pm - so this morning was nice...she called and said she was coming by just as I was looking at some biscotti my S11 and I had made before we left...it burnt a bit on the bottom...well, knowing that my W is an excellent baker - and makes cookies all the time - I just thought I would ask her if she knew a way to keep them from burning at all...to which she said, "I have no idea" turned and started to walk away...bitter and a bit angry...and so I just let it go and stayed friendly, and said, "oh, okay, I just thought they might be like cookies...see ya" - and I was just about to go back inside when she added, "maybe the oven temperature is just too high, I don't know." So I thanked her, said goodbye and went inside to play with the boys (who were already busy running around).
And now this...my S11 just got a Christmas card from my W's parents - well, from MIL - and she wrote, "...study hard and maybe we will see you this summer." For some reason that just kid of bugged me...don't want it to, but it did...since it felt kind of like a manipulative thing to include in the note...as I am sure she knew that I would read it too...
...just had another thought occur to me - I've made biscotti every Christmas for years - since just before I met my W - and I wonder if my asking her about it just reminded her that she wasn't part of something of mine that she used to share with me...part of the tradition that had evolved was for me to make biscotti for everyone in the family (her parents, my parents, aunts, uncles, friends) - it was like the extra present that we could give to everyone just to let them know we were thinking about them...perhaps I've gotten too detached - since that didn't even cross my mind when I asked her - I was just thinking about making more with my S11 tomorrow - and not wanting to have them burn this time...it was weird that they burned at all...though it was the first time I've made them using the oven in this house - and I had to get some new baking sheets since my W took the ones I had used for the last seven years...I wonder if the secret was her baking sheets...oh...I just remembered, along with saying that maybe the oven was too hot, she also said I should get an over thermometer - which just made me chuckle - since she took my oven thermometer with her when she moved out...oh well...I'll figure it out...which is probably best anyway.
