When I Look At The Stars

[mishka422]

No, not what I meant. I obviously didn't phrase that very well.

We meet the bad boy, he seems interesting, don't really realize he's that bad until we've talked to him a few hours. He's usually the joker, teaser type and that is fun for a few hours but then we realize he has no substance and he's controlling, selfish, and most likely a "user". That's when it gets old and tired unless the woman involved has had a lot of past trauma. Then she recognizes him as someone in her "comfort zone" even though that zone should be avoided. The women who gravitate to these type of men have been raised in an environment full of them generally. To them, that seems normal and the nice guy doesn't fit.

Does that make any more sense?

I was definitely NOT talking about anything further than that! Most women with average, family-oriented backgrounds run from these guys like the plague. One exception - women who are "fixers". Fixers will take on the "project" in the hopes that they can improve this man's life. Save him from himself and his prior circumstances whether he wants that or not. You know - turn them into the nice guy. Before long they are sucked in to the R and it's too late.