I hope you will have a peacefull and full of joy 2009! Please share with me your thoughts, I am trying to navigate through this ordeal and your comments are welcome. Even women go through MLC differently than men, some things are common. I have been separated from my W for 15 months now and the tension between us dissappeared. I decided not to be accusative and I let her deal with her own issues. However, my W never witnessed any R being restored, only separations and divorces. As I said, sometime she is nice, sometime cold. But she continues to be selfish. I also notice she is forgetful, but sometime she remind few things that we did together in the past. Of course, I did some changes in myself and I guess she noticed them. However, she is most likely so far of even thinking about a reconciliation. She had some thoughts last year, as I found out, but the OM reappeared for a while and her divorced "friends" are still in the picture. I guess I reached the acceptance phase, but not detachment. I still do hope she will come to senses, the love she is so looking for is closer than she thinks.
